Admitting your flaws before romantic relationship?

[ryancaleb]

Prior to starting any romantic relationship with the opposite gender, is it always best to reveal each other's insecurities and character flaws or is is best to ignore them or leave them to be brought up later and only once a relationship has already commenced? If the latter, when you have reached how far into the relationship should you tell your partner about your shortfalls/negative traits?



If you tell/admit to the partner about your negative traits/insecurities/personality problems in the beginning, would this imply that you want them to accept you for who you are and not have them try to change you? If not, do you think your partner would think this if you were this upfront from the beginning?



If you want yourself to improve on these negative traits that you have is it best to not mention your shortcomings in hope that you can improve yourself over time before your partner notices?



E.g. let's say you are not good socially in a group setting. Should you tell your partner in the beginning or let them find out themselves with time? What's the best and ideal thing to do if you want your relationship to last longest?



I lack life experience and so decided to start this thread to gain life advice from more experienced people.

So, what does everyone here normally do?


I didn't find the right solution from the internet.



References:

forums.whirlpool.net.au/forum-replies.cfm?t=2675828


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[vixenmaster]

Well this is an Archery Forum, its not Dear Abby. I can tell you through life i have found that things go better when honesty is applied. Being able to speak freely is always good. Never wait in a relationship to surprise things but don't just say things unless its asked.

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